“….a Father to the fatherless…” Psalm 68:5
Most of us are probably familiar with or have heard the ever popular Lord’s Prayer. The beginning verses in Matthew 6 start with:
Our Father who art in heaven,
Hallowed be your name.
I realized at one point in reading this passage, that though my mouth was verbally saying the words, my heart was having a hard time connecting with it.
God? My Father?
Leading up to this weekend I have been reflecting on what fatherhood has meant to my life, and how it had impacted me over the years.
You see unfortunately, I was abandoned by my earthly father. He was faintly in and out of my life during my early years, and I haven’t seen him since. So while it was easy for me to connect with God in the wonder of His holiness, His power, and His grace – during the beginning stages of my Christian walk, relating to him as my Father was difficult because my concept of a father was skewed.
Most of my memories of my earthly dad equate to let down and disappointment. I can recall waiting for hours for him to pick me up-only to sit on the porch and see the sun go down with no sign of him in sight. I didn’t have easy access to him, because his contact numbers were blocked and he was good at avoiding my phone calls.
It really created a deep wound in my heart. So naturally when I read passages like “…if you (earthly fathers) who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who ask Him! (Matt. 7:11), I had a hard time grasping it. Uhhh- I didn’t get any good gifts from my dad, so I couldn’t even think about what God as my Father might want to give me. Again, I was reading the words but couldn’t believe that it was for me.
Now please don’t misconstrue this post as a bashing session towards my earthly father. I honestly have no hard feelings towards him and pray if it is the Lord’s will we have an opportunity to connect one day. I am simply using this as an example to help you see where my disconnect was.
However, overtime the more I was honest with myself about the affects of what not growing up with my dad really had on me, the easier it became to allow the Holy Spirit and truth of God’s word to heal the broken places of my heart. To experience the truth that, “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the LORD will hold me close.” (Psalm 27:10). He revealed to me what true a father really is. And not just by definition but experiencing it in my day to day life.
A Father Protects.
A Father Loves.
A Father Disciplines.
A Father Provides.
A Father Gives Wisdom.
A Father Comforts.
Now that is what I call a good Father!
If your father is active in your life thank God for the gift that He has given you, for it is a mere reflection of the everlasting love that God has toward his children. Or maybe your dad, like me, abandoned you, caused you harm, or is no longer here on earth. It’s ok. Whether you have a relationship with your father or not, don’t allow the enemy to keep you from experiencing the relationship God wants you to have. Remember as His daughters we have”received the Spirit of adoption, by whom we cry out, Abba, Father!”( Romans 8:15). God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, prompting us to call out, “Abba, Father.” Now you are no longer a slave but God’s own child. And since you are his child, God has made you his heir! (Galatians 4:6). Amen!
So as I reflect on this Father’s day weekend, I salute all the dads that honor the call of duty. But even the greatest earthly father pales in comparison to our heavenly Father. And I am so grateful for the privilege of being called a daughter of the Most High and knowing that He has been with me every step of the way.
When you have a moment check out this song, it’s such a great reminder of the love of our good good Father! I pray it blesses your heart!
Until next time and Happy Father’s Day!